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1.長相不令人討厭，如果長得不好，就讓自己有才氣；如果才氣也沒有，那就總是微笑。
2.氣質是關鍵。如果時尚學不好，寧願純樸。
3.與人握手時，可多握一會兒。真誠是寶。
4.不必什麼都用「我」做主語。
5.不要向朋友借錢。
6.不要「逼」客人看你的家庭相冊。
7.與人打「的」時，請搶先坐在司機旁。
8.堅持在背後說別人好話，別擔心這好話傳不到當事人耳朵裡。
9.有人在你面前說某人壞話時，你只微笑。
10.自己開小車，不要特地停下來和一個騎自行車的同事打招呼。人家會以為你在炫耀。
11.同事生病時，去探望他。很自然地坐在他病床上，回家再認真洗手。
12.不要把過去的事全讓人知道。
13.尊敬不喜歡你的人。
14.對事不對人；或對事無情，對人要有情；或做人第一，做事其次。
15.自我批評總能讓人相信，自我表揚則不然。
16.沒有什麼東西比圍觀者們更能提高你的保齡球的成績了。所以，平常不要吝惜你的喝彩聲。
17.不要把別人的好，視為理所當然。要知道感恩。
18.榕樹上的「八哥」在講，只講不聽，結果亂成一團。學會聆聽。
19.尊重傳達室裡的師傅及搞衛生的阿姨。
20.說話的時候記得常用「我們」開頭。
21.為每一位上台唱歌的人鼓掌。
22.有時要明知故問：你的鑽戒很貴吧！有時，即使想問也不能問，比如：你多大了？
23.話多必失，人多的場合少說話。
24.把未出口的「不」改成：「這需要時間」、「我盡力」、「我不確定」、「當我決定後，會給你打電話」……
25.不要期望所有人都喜歡你，那是不可能的，讓大多數人喜歡就是成功的表現。
26.當然，自己要喜歡自己。
27.如果你在表演或者是講演的時候，如果只要有一個人在聽也要用心的繼續下去，即使沒有人喝采也要演，因為這是你成功的道路，是你成功的搖籃，你不要看的人成功，而是要你成功。
28.如果你看到一個貼子還值得一看的話，那麼你一定要回復，因為你的回復會給人繼續前進的勇氣，會給人很大的激勵。同時也會讓人感激你。
2007年2月26日星期一
2007年2月2日星期五
10 Things I Wish I Had Never Believed
November 11th, 2006 by Steve ----Bookmark on del.icio.us----
I’m writing this list for you because I wish somebody had sent me this list years ago.
- Money is the root of all evil *
Money isn’t good or evil. It’s a tool like a hammer or a saw. You can create with it or destroy with it. People use it to build infrastructure, to build research facilities, to find cleaner sources of energy, and to create timeless art and literature. If you use your money to create value for yourself and others, your money will grow – and you will have all the money you’ll ever need. However, if you hoard money selfishly or spend it frivolously, you will never have enough. Don’t you think you could contribute more to society, the world, and other people if you had great wealth? So what’s wrong with intending to be wealthy? Do you believe you have the capacity to create value in other people’s lives? Those that think and act create wealth, so if you intend to become wealthy, don’t wait around for a government grant or the winning lotto numbers, get out there and start creating value for other people today.
Why People Believe Money is the Root of All Evil - Getting a good job is the best way to earn money
Ask any entrepreneur if she’d like to quit and get a job. Then ask most people with a job if they’d like to quit and work for themselves. Most wealthy people will tell you a job is the worst way to make money.
Why Getting a Good Job isn’t the Best Way to Earn Money - Emotional people are weak, vulnerable, and easily manipulated
It’s the exact opposite. Strong emotions are a source of strength and power. The stronger your emotions and the better your ability to focus your emotion, the more creative and powerful you are. Denying your emotions creates weakness and vulnerability.
The Secret Great Leaders Know About Emotions - Admitting a mistake is a sign of weakness
If you aren’t making mistakes you aren’t learning anything. Fearing mistakes is the real weakness. Denying your mistakes, repeating them, and expecting different results is insane.
Success is 99% Failure - You can’t be successful without a college degree
This one was drilled into my head for years and I believed it. The results of this belief were devastating. I didn’t earn a decent living until I was able to squash the belief.85%76% of Americans do not have a degree. I want to be very clear about this – I know I am on dangerous ground – so here goes – All of you with college educations are valuable and you have tremendous ability to create value in the world. This is not a criticism of your achievements. But I also must say – if you are one of the85%76% that do not have a degree, you are equally valuable and you are not inferior. You have equal potential to create value in the world, even if you never get a degree. People with and without degrees create amazing results everyday. If you hate flipping burgers or ringing orders at Wal-Mart don’t continue just because our culture tells you it’s your lot in life. Don’t listen to the voice in your head that tells you what you can’t do. Tell it to shut-up. Then start to visualize what you desire to be and you will slowly become what you visualize.
10 Tips to Secure a Management Position without a College Degree - Your doctor is the best source of medical or psychiatric information
Medical information is expanding so rapidly doctors are increasingly using Google to diagnose patients. According to studies, 30% of patients are misdiagnosed and treated for a condition they do not have. Obviously, if you have a medical or psychiatric problem you should see a doctor, but question what they tell you. Don’t accept it on blind faith. Use your critical thinking. Ask difficult questions. Many people are afraid to question their doctor. Don’t be afraid! I believe questioning my doctor saved my life (I plan to do a post on that experience). Do research online about your condition and you may find that you know more about the condition than your doctor. If that happens, it may be time to find a new doctor. Remember there is nothing special or magical about doctors, they’re people just like you and me. Many of them are extremely busy, and they make mistakes – lots of mistakes. So be your own advocate. See your doctor, but do your own research in the library and online. And if you need to make a big medical decision, get a second, third, or fourth opinion. Your health is in your hands. You make the final decision.
Always Question Your Doctor - Three Stories Why - School is the best place for kids to learn
It’s probably the worst place for kids to learn. I wrote this in my last blog post:Bob Proctor said that the problem with education is that it teaches us what to think, not how to think. Bob is wrong. It’s much worse than that. Our schools teach us to think destructive thoughts, which produce negative results in our lives and in the world. I know this sounds crazy and defies conventional wisdom, but it isn’t an attack on teachers or intellectuals. They are victims of the same monolithic government system as the students. Most teachers know intuitively how screwed up the system is and they know they are powerless to change it. So instead of explaining my position, I’ll let the New York State Teacher of the Year John Taylor Gatto make the argument in his essay The Seven Lesson School Teacher and his interview in Fast CompanyRead my follow up: How the Public School System Crushes Souls
- Personal Development or Self-Help is a left-wing hippy thing
You may have a preconceived notion about Self-Help, but if you look closely I think you’ll find it is an inaccurate stereotype. When some people think of a ‘hippy’, they think of a bunch of scruffy unshaven kids in tie-dye shirts tripping on acid at a Grateful Dead show. When they think of ‘left-wing’, they think of socialism, communism, and atheism. All the Personal Development gurus I’ve seen are clean cut, positive thinking, deeply spiritual, entrepreneurs awash in wealth. Hardly a bunch of scruffy, atheistic, drug abusing, socialists. I highly recommend a Personal Development program regardless of your political or religious beliefs. My program has created amazing positive results. - I should ignore my feelings and make decisions with hard reason and logic
This is a lie I used to tell myself. You buy the house you buy because of how it makes you feel. You bought the car you drive because of the way it makes you feel. You eat the food you eat because of the way it makes you feel. You choose the relationships you have because of the way you feel. You choose a career because of how it makes you feel. There is no such thing as an emotionless rational decision. All good marketers and sales people know this. Accept the role your feelings play in decision-making. So if you are getting lousy results in your life, it’s probably because of the decisions you are making. You can only change the way you make decisions by changing the way you feel. Hard reason won’t change anything. Trying to plan your life with hard reason and logic results in inertia.
Give me 3 Minutes and I’ll Make You a Better Decision Maker - That I Should Put Political Opinions on This List
Big mistake on my part. See #4. I used to have a political opinion as #10 and it tainted this list. This isn’t a political blog. My goal is to help everybody, regardless of political opinions. I apologize to anyone I alienated. I’ll view it as an opportunity to learn.
Read the 10 part series on the 10 things I wish I had never believed:
#1 Why People Believe Money is the Root of All Evil
#2 Why Getting a Good Job isn’t the Best Way to Earn Money
#3 The Secret Great Leaders Know About Emotions
#4 Success is 99% Failure
#5 10 Tips to Secure a Management Position without a College Degree
#6 Always Question Your Doctor - Three Stories Why
#7 How the Public School System Crushes Souls
#9 Give Me 3 Minutes and I’ll Make you a Better Decision Maker
* I realize the original biblical quote is “The Love of Money is the Root of All Evil.” But many people, me included, misunderstood the quote, and that’s why I wrote it the way I did. The belief was rampant in my working class subculture. People looked down on you if you wanted to achieve wealth. Many people viewed you as a sellout or a crook. They believed in the virtue in being poor. They also believed that most wealthy people were unethical crooks that became wealthy on the backs of the working class. In some cases, this was true, but in most it wasn’t and the belief trapped the working class into a life of servitude. I plan to do more posts on working class culture.
2007年1月24日星期三
15 Principles to Creating What You Want
2. Don't try to be all things to all people. Learn to say no politely and pleasantly , but immediately and firmly.
3. Never wait for something to happen; make it happen! Do it now!
4. Do not be overwhelmed by the tasks before you. Don't try to do everything; just do something.
5. To accomplish your objective, first begin. Secondly, concentrate exclusively on the project at hand. Third, don't stop.
6. Let circumstances dictate your priorities; let priorities determine your actions.
7. Focus your efforts on the root of the problem. Don't expend energy on peripheral issues that are not crucial to producing results.
8. For maximum effectiveness, do only what you do best and let others do the rest.
9. Concentrate on long-term, permanent solutions rather than stop gap measures.
10. Don't waste time telling people what you are doing or what you are going to do. Results have a way of informing the world.
11. Don't make promises you can't keep; once made, keep them.
12. Don't be tempted to take the easy way out. Have the self-discipline to do the right thing rather than the instinctive thing.
13. Don't become lax; play every point as though it were matching point.
14. You are not through until you have dotted all the I's and crossed all the T's.
15. Avoid premature celebrations. You are not through till the check has cleared the bank.
10 Goals Worth Pursuing
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